Frankly, I think cancer is the catalyst, but “extraordinary” is a choice that some people make. I say that on the heels of learning that a wonderful young woman is yet again fighting the demon we identify as cancer and at the moment, it doesn’t look good.
She’s not the only one. Another very wise, very compassionate woman has spent years helping others to stay in the game, but now she awaits word of her fate. It looks like it could go either way. The uncertainty is unnerving.
Two very different women with one thing in common -- they are extraordinary. But it’s not their cancer that made them that way. It was the choices they made when push came to shove. Cancer forced them to the edge of the abyss. Most people would have looked down, but these two women chose to look up, to believe they could climb their way past the despair. They were motivated to seek answers, to reach out for the right kind of support to keep them going, to go kicking and screaming into the sunlight, leaving the dark nights of the soul behind.
These two wonderful beings wrap their arms around their loved ones every day. They know what they have -- they recognize the wind beneath their wings. But that’s not what makes them extraordinary. It’s that they still want life to be good for their social circle. They still believe in good people, good things, in a good life. That’s what they’ve chosen to see. Even as life tests them again and again, even as the sun goes behind the clouds and the rains come, they seek those sunny days and want to share them with us.
And because they do, our lives are richer for it. We feel for them. We long for a cure. We want them to be around forever. They are wise teachers. They have given us the opportunity to understand that time is finite and we should not squander it. In living their lives extraordinarily, they teach us that we are rich when we are loved and poor when we turn away from joy and laughter. Their pain is real. They cope with so many side effects and complications that knock them off their feet, but they somehow manage to get up again and fight on. They are grace under fire. They are ordinary human beings doing extraordinary things with their difficult circumstances, without magical powers or a miracle cure at hand.
Every day, some cancer patients choose to be extraordinary; it’s definitely a power they embrace by conscious effort. They turn their faces to the warmth of the sun’s light, away from the cold, bitter winds of cancer and the desolate landscape of despair. They may not make it as far as they want to go. Their families and friends may graduate without them, marry without them, even have children without them, but all that love they have invested in people over the years will live on. All of the hearts and minds of relatives, friends, and strangers they have touched will remember how they showed us that extraordinary is a state of mind that we must choose to embrace. The shadow of death cannot defeat the light that comes from living life out loud. We have only this time on earth, these few moments. Don’t waste it fretting about the unseen future. Grab the here and now and make it extraordinary.
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